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September 20, 2011 / joelmalm

Marrying the Wrong Person

I met a lady who recently accepted Christ at our church.  She is now praying hard that her husband will find the same peace and hope she has through Jesus.

Here’s the irony.  There are loads of Christians who knowingly and willingly marry themselves into her current situation every day.  They marry someone who is not a Christian.  The Apostle Paul clearly says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.” (2 Cor. 6:14) I’ve found that the Bible is pretty insightful on how to live a life that works.

In Sunday school they taught me that the secret to joy is putting your life in this order:


Is it too bold of me to suggest that when you marry someone who doesn’t have their priorities in this order you are setting yourself up for the opposite of joy?

I’ll be even bolder.

I wonder if those who profess total commitment to Christ really show their true colors when they choose to make a lifelong commitment to someone who doesn’t share that love…

If you are married and in this situation stay the course and be encouraged by the Bible’s command:

And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. (1 Cor7:13)

If you are dating a non-believer then you need to fall out of love post-haste.

Yes, I said fall out of love.  It’s possible.  Just ask my friend Sarah.  She was about to marry a dude who didn’t share her love for Christ.  Sure, he went to church with her, but when she was honest she knew he didn’t love Jesus like she did.  So she consciously decided to fall out of love with him.  It was one of the most painful things she’s ever done.  But the pain is gone now and she is married to a ferociously godly man. (Guys like that do exist, they hang out in churches.) 🙂


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  1. Josiah Hill / Sep 22 2011 12:03 pm

    I think this is a good and appropriate word for our generation. Thank you.

    So, what’s the opposite of JOY? YOJ? 🙂 kidding.

    Grace and Peace

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